Taking yourself out on a masturbation date

Taking yourself out on a masturbation date

Hey, ladies! Pull up a chair, grab your fave drink, and let's spill the tea about something that should be as normal as discussing your favourite Netflix series but still gets women blushing—masturbation! Yes, I said it, and no, it’s not just a “guy thing.” Today, we’ll be diving into the world of self-love because, let's be real, it’s time you took matters into your own hands.


I want to start by asking you one important question: Are you giving yourself permission to get to know your body better? Think about all the things you are doing to care for yourself... Does that include some quality masturbation time? If not, we have some work to do, keep reading ladies!

Surprise, surprise: the stats don't lie!

According to a 2023 study by SexualAlpha, 48.1% of women admit to masturbating compared to 73.8% of men. One of the significant issues is that 22% of women have revealed lying about masturbating due to embarrassment or fear of judgement. Let’s do something about this disappointing statistic, shall we?

Let’s start with the benefits of masturbation

More than just feeling good, there are an endless number of benefits of masturbation such as relieving menstrual cramps and muscle tension, better sleep, releasing sexual tension and reducing stress.

But that’s not all…

Masturbation reveals how you like to feel pleasure. Since you are guiding yourself around your own vagina, you can discover where you like to be touched, with how much pressure, in what position and for how long! This not only will make it easier for you to achieve orgasms in the future, but also when you are with a partner. 

5 reasons why you should masturbate

💖 Pain Relief: Studies have shown that orgasms can act as a natural painkiller. Got cramps? Try masturbating!

💖 Strengthens Pelvic and Anal Areas: Kegels are great, but masturbation can help you strengthen these muscles, too. It's like a gym session for your lady bits!

💖 Better Sleep: Struggling with insomnia? The hormone oxytocin, released during orgasm, promotes good sleep. Bye-bye, counting sheep!

💖 Mood Booster: According to a study published by the University of Texas-Pan American, orgasms release endorphins, which are your body’s feel-good chemicals. So, it's a natural antidepressant without side effects!

💖 Self-Discovery: Knowing your own body makes for better sexual experiences with a partner, improving your overall sexual well-being.

Pencil it in: your masturbation date

Alright, are you convinced yet? Let's get to the how-to part, the fun stuff. Most importantly, it's time to sit down and schedule some much needed you-time. Remember, pleasure should be a priority!

Some ideas to get you started: 

Privacy and Comfort Are Key: Make sure your space is all yours for your self-pleasure time. Lock the door if you need to, set the room to your preferred temperature, and ensure you’ve got room to move and play.

Set The Mood: There is no better way to get you in the mood like setting it! Put your favourite Nancy playlist on, light a scented candle, and why not even dance a bit to get your energy flowing.

Take Deep Breaths: Before getting started, get in the right headspace by closing your eyes and taking some deep breaths. Let your imagination run free, while you take the time to unwind.

Flex Those Muscles: As you breathe, squeeze your pelvic floor muscles (yes, those Kegel muscles). Feel those initial tingles? They're the initial feelings of telling your body that you are in the mood.

Body Mapping: Now, don't sprint to the finish line, okay? 😉 Start with touching your arms, your legs, and your belly. Get those other erogenous zones in on the action before heading down to you know where, ladies.

Some positions to try: 

  • Classic: Lying on your back, perhaps with a mirror for visual, use your fingers or a soft toy to stroke around the clitoral area, start with lightly brushing up and down, alternating with circular motion, and figure out what feels good
  • On your knee: Keeping your knees wide open, kneel on a soft surface like the bed or a cushion on the floor. In this position you can use one hand to gently caress your breasts, and the other on the clitoral area, start by using your palm for a more gentle stimulation and move on to fingers and toy
  • On The Belly: Lie face down and place your hand or toy under you. Wriggle your hip gently, and experiment with different pressure and grinding motion

Repeat after me: Masturbation is not shameful!

So, here's the mantra: Masturbation is NOT shameful. It is a normal part of exploring your sexuality and essential to your self-pleasure! So, go ahead and take yourself on that self-care date, we all need it. It might just be the most fulfilling relationship you have this week! Remember, your body is a wonderland, and ladies, you should enjoy exploring what makes you feel good, whenever you please. Happy exploring! 🌸💖

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