But first: what’s a threesome?
A threesome, or as some like to call it, a threeway or ménage à trois, is when three people who all consent get together for some sexual fun. This kind of group sex can include any combination of genders. Sometimes, it's three single folks joining up for the thrill. Other times, it's a couple who decide to spice things up by inviting someone else into their intimate moments.
How to have a threesome
Picking the right partner for a threesome is key to making sure everyone has a blast!
Be confident in what you want
Choosing your threesome partner involves different challenges depending on whether you're considering strangers, acquaintances, or close friends. Inviting a stranger means you'll need to be extra careful with vetting to ensure both chemistry and safety. But bringing a friend into the mix could complicate the friendship. It's crucial to be open about your desires and mindful of any emotional risks that could arise.
Try out dating apps
Dating sites and apps are great tools when you're looking to add a third to your fun. You and your partner can create a joint profile that clearly states what you're looking for, whether it’s a unicorn (typically a bisexual woman who joins couples), someone who’d join while your partner watches, or maybe even a regular third wheel in your relationship.
Communicate clearly
No matter who you invite into your bedroom, make sure communication is crystal clear. Once you find the right match, be upfront and honest about what you expect and desire. It might take a bit of time and effort, but by putting yourselves out there, you're more likely to find the perfect third to spice up your sex life.
Looking for tips and tricks?
Here are some tips for a healthy and successful threesome!
Set an intention
Before diving into your first threesome, take a moment to reflect on what you're hoping to achieve. Are you looking to fulfill a specific fantasy, explore more about your own sexuality, or perhaps add something new to your current sex life? Getting clear on your reasons and desires will help you smoothly navigate the complexities of a threesome.
Bring it up with your partner in the right context
When considering a threesome, it's crucial to address any initial fears or jealousy your partner may feel. Calmly explain your reasons for wanting to explore this experience, ensuring it’s not a fix for existing relationship issues. Remember, communication and mutual excitement are key; never push your partner into agreeing. If it’s your partner suggesting a threesome, ensure it’s something you truly desire too. If not, be honest and open to discussing other ways to enrich your relationship.
Find the right third
Once you and your partner agree on trying a threesome, discuss who might join you. Whether it's an attractive stranger from a dating app or a close friend, it's important that both of you feel a strong chemistry with this third person. When you're ready, reach out with an invitation that's light and casual, yet straightforward and clear, to set the tone for your upcoming adventure.
Decide on ground rules and boundaries
Once you've found the perfect third, it's essential for all of you to sit down and openly discuss boundaries and ground rules. This includes agreeing on what types of sexual activities everyone feels comfortable with, from kissing to more involved acts. Establishing clear consent is crucial, as is discussing safe sex practices to prevent the transmission of STIs. You'll need to agree on the use of protective measures like condoms or dental dams. It's also wise to talk about whether the third party will stay the night. After setting these boundaries, you can pick a date for the encounter.
Have fun!
To create the right atmosphere for your threesome, consider setting the mood with candles and music, sharing a drink to relax, and spending some time talking and flirting to get comfortable with each other. Once things start to heat up, experiment with different positions to find what works best for everyone involved. Keep lube handy and use it generously. Introducing sex toys can also spice things up and ensure everyone is enjoying themselves. Always remember, if at any point you feel uncomfortable, you have the right to stop the encounter.
Debrief
After your threesome, it's crucial to openly discuss the experience with your partners to clear any potential awkwardness or jealousy. Talk about what parts of the encounter you enjoyed. Later, when you and your primary partner are alone, honestly discuss whether you want to incorporate threesomes regularly into your sex life or if this was a one-time adventure.
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