Let's get real: who doesn't want their steamy moments to last a little longer? Especially for those with a penis, crossing the finish line way too early can feel like a major bummer.
But here's the lowdown: sexy time doesn’t always have to be a marathon. And longer sessions aren’t automatically tickets to Pleasure Town either! Context is king (or queen), and what floats your boat might not rock your partner's world the same way. Communication is everything – don't be shy to ask what they're into.
Now, for a bit of pillow talk stats: a peek into The Journal of Sexual Medicine tells us the average love-making sesh clocks in between three to seven minutes, minus the foreplay. Yet, folks are daydreaming about seven to thirteen minutes of playtime.
But here's a twist – research hints that many heterosexual ladies need around 13.41 minutes to, well, orgasm. If making that happen is on your wishlist, you're in luck. Because we here at Nancy have some golden tips to help you last longer and get better in bed.
Kick performance anxiety to the curb
Let's chat about shaking off that performance pressure and kicking anxiety to the curb. Swap stress for pure, in-the-moment bliss. Think less about hitting every high note and more about the vibe between you and your partner. Real talk? Sex is way more than just crossing the finish line; it’s about the connection, the laughs, and all those little moments that make your heart skip a beat.
If the worry of “doing it right” starts creeping in, pause and remind yourself that this is your safe space to explore and enjoy, no scorecards involved. Open up the convo with your partner—share what’s on your mind and what makes you feel good. This isn’t a solo performance; it’s a duo act.
Remember, kicking performance anxiety to the curb isn't a one-night stand; it's more like a committed relationship. Be patient, keep communicating, and let the good times roll.
Focus on them
Alright, let's flip the script from stressing over your own performance to tuning into your partner's vibes. Think beyond the basics—there's a whole world of pleasure to explore with your hands, mouth, and maybe even a few playful toys. Get creative and let the fun begin!
Why not make foreplay the star of the show? Stretching out those teasing moments can seriously turn up the heat and ease any performance pressure you might be feeling. It's a smooth move that promises heaps of enjoyment for both of you.
As you shift your focus to your partner’s delight, you'll notice your own tension start to melt away. It’s about being in the moment, riding the waves of pleasure together rather than getting caught up in your head.
Lifestyle matters
Looking to improve your time in the bedroom? A healthier lifestyle could be key. It's simple: better overall health leads to better sexual health.
Here’s the deal: Unhealthy habits like being overweight, smoking, or overindulging in alcohol can negatively affect your sexual performance. And don't overlook mental health—stress, anxiety, and depression play big roles too.
While a drink might seem like a quick fix to feel more relaxed and last longer, it's not a reliable solution. In fact, relying too much on alcohol can lead to performance issues.
Instead, consider mindfulness. Taking a moment to slow down, breathe deeply, and focus on the present can help you gain more control and enhance the experience for both you and your partner.
Give edging a go
Edging is all about teasing the heights of sexual excitement and then deliberately dialling it back right before the climax. This method can dramatically heighten pleasure and provide better control, leading to a more powerful and gratifying orgasm when you do decide to let go. It's a fantastic way to add some zest to your intimate encounters, offering a chance to deeply explore and understand your or your partner's pleasure points. By engaging in edging, you're not just waiting for the final moment but savouring the entire sensual journey, enhancing endurance, and unlocking new realms of sexual fulfilment.
Talk to a sex coach
Navigating the waters of concerns like premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction can feel like a solo journey, but it doesn't have to be. Before you dive into the sea of self-help and solutions, consider partnering up with a pro—a sex coach or sexologist could be your perfect match.
While looping in a doctor is always a smart move, they often turn to prescriptions as a plan B, after other avenues have been explored. And for issues tightly tangled with medical conditions, like erectile dysfunction leading to premature ejaculation, medications such as Cialis come into play. These aren't just quick fixes; they're part of a bigger picture to enhance your experience, reducing downtime so the pleasure doesn’t have to pause.
So, if you're feeling stuck, remember: reaching out for expert advice can be incredibly, incredibly helpful.
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Now, we all know the value of connecting with others, but let's not overlook the power of getting to know ourselves. Solo exploration is key to unlocking what really makes us tick, paving the way for even more shared joy down the line.
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