The first time I heard the term 'squirting', I was as lost as ever. "Squirt? Squirting? Is that some kind of Pokémon? No, wait… that's Squirtle."
Let me repeat: totally dumbfounded.
Now, if you don’t already know what squirting is, chances are you’ll want to Google it (or probably already have). The thing about Google is that there are tens of hundreds of articles, websites, and well, pornographic films on what exactly squirting is.
But not to worry. We here at Nancy will give you the what, why, and how of all things squirting in the most straightforward way possible. Because, well, we love you. And we know the internet can be downright confusing!
So, first off…
What is squirt?
Squirting—it's not just a party trick, and for some, it's quite the showstopper! Picture this: during the heat of the moment, some folks with vulvas might find themselves gushing around 10 ml or more of a clear fluid, usually hitting the peak during an orgasm or intense arousal. Yes, it's a thing, and yes, it's called squirting. This intriguing phenomenon has sparked curiosity and a fair share of debate. What exactly is this fluid? Where does it come from? And why does it happen to some and not others?
The debate around the composition of the squirt fluid is as lively as it is complex. Scientifically, it's understood that the fluid is expelled through the urethra, the same channel through which urine is passed, which has led to some confusing and mixed messages about its true nature. Some researchers argue that the fluid shares properties with urine, containing traces of urea and creatinine. However, others have found that it's chemically closer to fluids produced by the prostate in individuals assigned male at birth, rich in substances like prostatic acid phosphatase and fructose. This biochemical tug-of-war has left many scratching their heads—what should we really believe?
Ultimately, does it matter exactly what the chemical makeup of squirt is? Lots of people find squirting super, super enjoyable and empowering. It's a unique aspect of sexual expression that can bring pleasure, release, and even a deeper connection with one's body. So, let’s shift the focus from scientific scrutiny to something more useful—learning how to try and experience it for ourselves.
How to squirt
You might never master the art of squirting, or help your partner get there, and that’s absolutely okay and totally normal. But if you're aiming to give it a go, there are a couple of essentials: the person with the vagina needs to be super relaxed, and their G-region has got to get some loving attention.
Here’s the tricky bit—staying chill when you feel like you’re supposed to be doing something spectacular can be tough. That's the real paradox. Make sure you and your partner are on the same page about this. It's key to have open, honest chats about what you’re both hoping for. If you’re the one doing the stimulating, reassure your partner that there’s no pressure to perform miracles. Keep the lines of communication wide open during the whole shebang, listen to each other, and why not bring some toys, fingers, or whatever works into the mix to target the G-spot? It’s all about that internal stimulation. Remember, practice might not always make perfect, but it sure can be a lot of fun trying!
Sari Cooper, a pro in this field, suggests giving G-spot stimulation a shot by using a 'come-here' motion with two fingers or a toy designed for that purpose. It's located on the front wall of the vagina, a little way inside—kind of like a spongy, secret spot. She notes that this feels quite different from clitoral stimulation, so keeping your breathing deep and staying mentally present can really help keep the experience enjoyable, without fixating on the end game.
What if you don’t squirt?
If trying to squirt doesn’t pan out, don’t sweat it—there’s no room for embarrassment or disappointment here. The bedroom is a playground, and squirting is just one game you can play.
Sex is all about pleasure and enjoyment. Forget hitting goals or chasing orgasms. Just focus on feeling good. We suggest keeping it chill and tuning into whatever floats your boat—be it sights, sounds, or sensations. When pleasure is your guide, things like squirting become minor details.
Feeling pressure from your partner about not squirting? It’s time for some straight talk. Let them know that bodies are diverse; some might squirt, others won’t. And if they’re piling on the pressure, they’re not just hampering your chances of ever squirting; they’re also hurting your feelings. Remember, it’s totally okay to walk away from someone who makes you feel you have to perform or be something you’re not. Your comfort and joy are paramount, and no one should make you feel less than amazing about your body or your sexuality. There are plenty of folks out there who will treasure you just as you are, squirt or no squirt.
Don't treat sex like a competitive sport, which only leads to embarrassment and no pleasure. Some people might learn to squirt, others might not—and that's okay. Enjoy the journey and stay present with what brings you joy.
And hey, if you don’t end up squirting, think of the bright side—you’ll have less of a mess to clean up afterwards!
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